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Manipulative Behavior: How to Recognize
a "Leech"
By Sheila Webster-Heard
You don’t really need to stare
off into the cosmos struggling with the belief that someone you care about
has manipulative behavior and is taking advantage of you because you already
know. As intelligent beings, we all come equipped with a nagging voice inside
that shouts when something isn't right or when someone isn't everything they're
claiming to be. Unfortunately, a lot of us ignore that voice and are victimized
by manipulative behavior on a continuous basis.
Whether it's a family member who exploits
the love we have for them or a co-worker who believes we're feeble minded
because we're friendly, it's not easy to confront this person with our feelings
because it's much easier to just get along.
But when do we make a decision to
draw the line and acknowledge that we're being run over by someone with
manipulative behavior and, more than anything, when do we decide to do something
about it?
Do we wake up one morning, refusing
to get out of our beds; Exhausted from trying to save that relative that's
not even interested in saving themselves?
Or is it when the telephone rings,
we look at the caller I.D. and feel nauseated? Do we then accept that it's
time to cut all ties with this person?
Whenever your awareness hits, I'm
willing to bet you'll notice you've been feeling awful for some time
now.
You've probably been shushing the
inkling inside, believing you're the one with the problem, but at the same
time, you've also noticed you can never shake the weird vibe you get every
time this person is around.
Honestly, you suspect your relationship
with your manipulator is a joke and the joke is repeatedly on you!
You want to disappear and don’t
think for one moment this crafty individual doesn’t sense you’re
tiring of them. That’s when they smooth things over and begin the artistry
of their manipulative behavior all over again. And you proceed, as always,
to fall for it.
So, just in case you're not sure,
let's examine what manipulative behavior is.
According to the Merriam-Webster online
dictionary to manipulate means to “control or play upon by artful, unfair,
or insidious means especially to one's own advantage” or “to change
by artful or unfair means so as to serve one's purpose”.
The bottom line is, whoever's abusing
you with their manipulative behavior and using you for their own selfish
reasons are also controlling you in a big way and they're being very creative
doing it.
Physically, they're not holding you
captive, but they have a hold on your mind and once you've finally escaped
your manipulators grip, if you escape, you'll wonder how you allowed it go
on for as long as it did.
The answer to that is uncomplicated.
Sympathy.
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The one thing I’ve noticed about
people with manipulative behavior who relentlessly use others is they all
have a story and it’s forever a sad one.
Their sad stories can be real or as
I have experienced ‘made up’, but nonetheless, their goal is to
have you do things for them they can easily do for themselves.
Not only that, but your money and
your time are all under close inspection and the more they assume you have
the better. Somehow, they believe you owe them the abundance that you've
worked hard for.
A majority of time, these people are
capable of managing their own affairs; they’re smart, full of life and
may even have a few college degrees, however, their conduct is so contradictory
that you, or no one else for that matter, can comprehend why they reek of
self-inflicted difficulty.
Often, this type of manipulative behavior
is directly connected to someone with a personality disorder.
The resource, ‘DSM-IV Made Easy:
The Clinician's Guide To Diagnosis' states that “Personality disorders
are collections of traits that have become rigid and work to individuals'
disadvantage, to the point that they impair functioning and cause
distress.”
And your stress.
So, now it's time to DESTRESS. You
can break the ties of this disastrous relationship if you always remember
the population who make a profession out of leeching and advocating their
own manipulative behavior:
*Crave pity. They want you to feel
sorry for them, so you’ll offer your services regularly without expecting
anything in return.
*Will be your friend as long as
you’re available for favors, when you’re not available they’ll
quickly dump you.
*Don't really like you (hey, they
don't like themselves) and may even be envious of you. However, they do need
you. They'll play the ‘buddy game' to get what they want. Don't be
fooled!
*Are self-centered. They may ask for
a lot of assistance, not taking into consideration you have a busy life of
your own.
*May make back handed comments. Pay
close attention to those comments. This is what your moocher really thinks
of you.
You need to:
*Use the word “No!”
*Understand it doesn't matter how
much you aid or how long you counsel your user, they will never appreciate
your good deeds. They'll laugh behind your back; feeling satisfied that they
were able to “con” something else out of you.
*Look out for yourself first. A leech
can keep you from achieving your goals, financially or otherwise. Don't get
sidetracked by volunteering to pay bills or put aside your business affairs;
Suggest to the person that they must seek help elsewhere.
*Let the relationship go. They may
gossip about you brutally and turn everyone against you, but just remember
this: They were going to do that anyway. Protect yourself from the vicious
mooch with manipulative behavior and soon, you'll be comparing notes with
their other victims.
About the author:
References
Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary
www.webster.com
DSM-IV Made Easy
The Clinician’s Guide to Diagnosis
By James Morrison
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/
0898625688/104-2932517-9843943?v=glance&n=2
Sheila Webster-Heard is a freelance
writer who loves to write about her life experiences. She lives in Calumet
City, Illinois with her husband and three children.
http://www.sheilawebster-heard.com
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